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Preparing for a Natural Birth

July 8, 2015 by Aliesha

Preparing for a Natural Birth in a Hospital:  A Three-Part Series  |  Feathers in Our Nest

Over the next few weeks, I will be sharing about preparing for a natural birth in a hospital.  (I’m totally in favor of home births, but we’ve decided that a hospital is the right place for our family at this time!)  I’ve had three births in a hospital, all of which were assisted by fantastic midwives.  I want to share with you how I prepare for natural (largely un-medicated) births in three ways.

1. Mentally/Emotionally

How do I go into each birth mentally?  How does my “head knowledge” help in the midst of the tough parts of labor?  What should I be reading now to prepare?

2. Spiritually

How do I prepare my heart for labor?  How do I make “my plans” while also surrendering to the Lord and HIS plans as I prepare to go into labor?  What music and Scripture do I cling to while laboring?

3. Physically

How do I best prepare my body for a natural birth?  What do I pack to take with me?  What do I write in my birth plan?

I’ll be publishing these three posts soon and tackling the questions listed above (and more), but if you have any specific questions for me that you’d like me to try and answer in the posts, leave them in the comments below!

Filed Under: baby, natural birth, pregnancy

Jude’s Birth Story

September 20, 2013 by Aliesha

I love reading birth stories.  If you don’t, you can skip this post, but I wanted to preserve all of the memories I have of Jude’s birth so I can always remember it.  (I love going back and reading Vera’s and Cordelia’s birth stories too!)

On Thursday, September 12, I laid down to take my usual afternoon nap around 2:30PM.  I noticed I was having contractions, but didn’t think much of it until they continued for another hour.  During that time, I got up and did some laundry, packed some more things for the hospital, cleaned up the kitchen, and started timing my contractions.  Between 3:30PM and 4:30PM, they were 3-4 minutes apart and lasted close to a minute each.  They were very, very mild in terms of intensity, so I didn’t think there was a rush to get to the hospital, even though they were so close together.  I went ahead and called my mom and told her she might want to hit the road (she lives 5 hours away), and I texted Tad at work and told him he should probably head home soon.

By 5:30PM, we were trying to get in contact with our childcare people, and we had to go down the list until we found someone who was available!  At this point, my contractions were 2-3 minutes apart and lasted a minute each.  Still, they were so mild that I felt like going to the hospital might be the wrong thing to do.  After talking with my midwife, she told me to head in within the next 30 minutes or so, since we live 35 minutes from the hospital and this was my third baby.

At 6:15PM we left for the hospital, with my contractions 2 minutes apart.  I hoped we were doing the right thing by leaving!  It took us a little while to get checked in, and when my midwife checked me at 7:30, I was 3cm dilated, 50% effaced, and at -1 station.

I went over my birth plan with the nurse and my midwife and completed all of the routine check-in questions (medical history, etc.).  My midwife had no problem with just a saline lock in my arm and intermittent monitoring while I walked the halls of the hospital.  From 8:30PM until 9:30PM Tad and I walked all over the hospital.

We came back at 9:30PM so they could check the baby’s heart rate and monitor my contractions for a little while.  When they attached the fetal heart monitor, my baby’s heart rate plummeted to 80 bpm.  It was such an awful sound, to hear his heart beating at almost half of what it should have been.  My nurse called for my midwife Lisa and requested they bring an oxygen mask to the room immediately.  She rolled me to my left side, and before they got there with the mask, Baby Punkin’s heart rate had returned to its normal level.

After that scary incident, they wanted to monitor us for a while.  I stayed in bed for an hour, then they let me sit on the birthing ball while still hooked up to the monitors.

I hoped that if I could just sit on the ball instead of in bed that my contractions would continue to intensify.  We listed to worship music and talked.

 My mom arrived around midnight, and she was glad she hadn’t missed the birth!

From 1:45AM until around 2:30AM they let me once again walk the halls of the hospital.  My mom walked with me that time so that Tad could rest.  My contractions began to slow down (even with all that walking!) until they were 5-7 minutes apart.  I did have a bloody show, which was a very good sign that labor was still going.

I made the decision to try and get some sleep and just pray that the contractions would pick back up after I rested.  From 3:00AM until around 5:45AM, I laid in the bed and slept through most of my contractions.  When I woke up, my contractions were 10-13 minutes apart.

From 6:00AM until 6:40AM, I walked the halls again and my mom and Tad got some breakfast.  I talked my midwife into letting me have some broth and jello.

Just before 7:00AM, my midwife examined me and I was 4cm dilated, 75% effaced, and at -2 station.  She stripped my membranes and it really hurt!  She told me that I should probably decide whether I wanted her to break my water or start me on Pitocin in order to get things going again.

From 7:40AM until 8:30AM I walked, prayed, and tried to decide what to do.  I texted some friends and asked them to pray and give input too.  The general consensus was that breaking my water may greatly intensify the pain, but I was only at 4cm, so that’s a long way to go until 10cm!  I had responded well to Pitocin with Cordelia’s birth, so I considered that to be a “safe” option.

At 8:45AM, my midwife and I decided that we would start a low and slow dose of Pitocin since labor had stalled.  I could hardly feel any contractions at this point, so I knew we had to do something!  At 9:05, we started the Pitocin drip.  Every 15-20 minutes, my nurse (a friend of mine from church… so cool!) upped the Pitocin drip a little bit.  By 10:35, I felt like I was in real labor again and they stopped increasing the Pitocin.

I sat on the birthing ball during all of this, rocking and swaying to the worship music we were playing in the room.  Tad made a beautiful playlist for us to listen to during my labor.  I am so grateful for that, since concentrating on God’s faithfulness and depending on HIS strength was what got me through each difficult contraction!

Around 12:30PM, things were “getting real”!!  I could still talk through contractions, but I was definitely feeling their intensity level.  They were probably 1.5 minutes apart and very strong.

My midwife checked me at 12:35, and I was 5cm dilated, 80% effaced, and at 0 station.  She broke my water, and the next hour was a very intense blur!

I’m not sure when I started really vocalizing this time, but I concentrated on relaxing my jaw and making low, “oh” or “oooh” sounds.  Vocalizing really gives me strength through contractions, but someone listening in might think I was expressing pain.  Tad and my mom kept helping me focus on handling each contraction one at a time.  They were both great encouragers during my whole labor!  Tad rubbed my lower back during each contraction, which felt good but also helped distract me from the pain.

I continued to hold to my “mantra” of “This is not pain, this is progress,” but with the speed of this labor (the last hour, not the early part), I did feel more pain than with Cordelia’s birth.  I continued to press into the Lord for strength as we listened to worship music, sang together, and prayed out loud.

Shortly after 1PM, I believe, I started to feel very cranky and like I did NOT want to do this anymore!  I felt nauseous and a little out of control of the situation.  Tad told me I should use the restroom (so everyone could rearrange the room and get the birthing stool ready), and I think I said something along the lines of, “I don’t want to!”  But I did, and when I came back, they had moved the bed and set up the chair in the middle of the room.

I sat on the birthing ball for a couple more contractions, then I said, “chair,” and moved over there to prepare for the birth.

At 1:25, I was on the chair, and by the way I was vocalizing, both Tad and I knew that we were SO close to meeting our baby!  Lisa, my midwife, checked me and I was 8cm dilated.  In 15 years of being a midwife, she had never used a birthing stool before, but she plopped right down on the ground like she used it every day!

Probably the hardest part of the whole labor was those next few minutes.  I wanted to bear down and push, but I needed to dilate 2 more centimeters first.  Lisa coached me through forcefully blowing air out during the contractions in order to keep myself from pushing yet.

I reached up and could feel his head, which was so motivating and encouraging!  At last (because those few contractions in just a couple minutes seemed unbearably long), I could feel that I was ready to push!

Tad was behind me, giving me support and rubbing my arm.  I gripped tightly to the back of the birthing chair to gain strength to push.  I was quite loud during pushing, but again, that helped me do what I need to do!  There’s no shame in being “loud” during a natural birth.

I don’t know how many pushes it was, but I think it was just two or three for his head.  Lisa told me to reach down so I could deliver him myself!  I placed my hands under his slippery arms and pulled him up to my chest while giving one more big push.  He was born at 1:36PM on September 13, exactly one hour after they broke my water at 5cm (and 13 days after his “due date”)!

He didn’t cry immediately, which concerned me deeply, but after a few seconds, he began to cry.  I found out later that the cord was wrapped around his neck once, but not tightly.  I was so, SO thrilled to be holding my beautiful new baby!

They cleaned him up a bit and left him “attached” to me for a while.  I had requested that we wait at least until the cord stopped pulsing before cutting the cord.  We announced his name: Jude Micah.
I was able to nurse him right away.  I didn’t even have to show him how!  He latched on immediately with a crazy strong latch!

It was so beautiful to just hold him and savor that wonderful moment  of meeting him for the first time.

 Tad was one proud papa!

Tad cut the cord, as he has with all our children.

When they weighed Jude, everyone gasped at his weight: 9 lbs., 1 oz.!  Amazingly, I had no tearing and so far this has been my easiest recovery physically.

I finally let Tad have a turn holding Jude.

I am so thankful to Tad for being an amazing support to me throughout the whole pregnancy and delivery.

My mom was also an incredible support and we were so thankful she could be there for Jude’s birth (she also took most of these amazing photographs)!

My nurse/friend, Mitzi, and midwife, Lisa, were a great team!

As I look back at Jude’s birth from just one week’s perspective, I marvel at the hand of God working so many details out perfectly.  It was an incredible experience having another unmedicated birth, but I am ultimately thankful for a healthy baby and a wonderful family that surrounds him with love!

Thank you all for praying for us before and during his birth.  God is so faithful!

Filed Under: Jude, natural birth, pregnancy

Cordelia’s Birth Story

February 28, 2012 by Aliesha

Five days later, I am still completely in awe of the amazing birth that the Lord allowed me to have with Cordelia Mae.  I was so blessed to have a WONDERFUL natural birth even after being induced (as directed by the doctor after the concern over low fluid levels).  I was supported through the labor and delivery by my husband, my mom, a great nurse, and a wonderful midwife.  I delivered at a hospital that supported my desires for as little intervention as possible, and I received great support from the lactation consultants.  But I’m getting ahead of myself…

All day the Wednesday before I was to be induced, I did whatever I could think of to try and get labor started.  I sat on an exercise ball anytime I sat down, but I stayed really active all day and did squats and other stretches to try and get the baby to move into a good position (not sunny side up).  We got everything in order for the next day (talk about a weird feeling… knowing I was going to have a baby the next day!).  I even went to church that night.  My mom got into town that night so that she could be present for the birth the next day.

Thursday morning Tad and I drove to the hospital really early (we had to leave at 5AM).  My mom stayed at the house with Vera until a friend from church came over to relieve her.  It took a while to get all checked in and everything, so I wasn’t actually started on the Pitocin drip until about 8AM.  Our hospital has ambulatory monitoring, so I was able to walk around the halls of the floor to help get things moving.  They started me out on a really low amount of Pitocin (at my request) and they increased it every half hour or so all morning.  I walked and walked and walked until probably 10:30AM (around the time my mom arrived).  At this point I started to notice that my contractions were getting regular.  They were very mild and didn’t last long (30 seconds?) and came every 3 minutes or so.

Tad and I actually played Dutch Blitz for a little while as I experienced contractions.  I sat on a birthing ball by the bedside while he, my mom, and I chatted and laughed.

 

At 11:00AM my midwife came in to check my cervix.  I had not been checked since my appointment two days ago (where I had been 2 cm).  I was at -1 station and 4 cm, and she told me I was in active labor.  I was surprised, since I didn’t feel like the contractions were very strong at all.  She recommended that we break my water, which I was fine with since labor was progressing well.  I think that really helped my body to “kick it into gear.”

I sat on the birthing ball a lot after that point.  I don’t think I ever got back into the bed after that.  I spent a little bit of time in the birthing chair until I felt a little uncomfortable.  My back hurt and I wanted Tad to be able to rub it.  As I labored on the birthing ball, Tad rubbed my back and read Scripture verses over me as I labored.  We had hymns and worship music playing for my whole labor.  It was so uplifting!

I almost feel like I can’t describe this as “labor” compared with what it felt like with Vera.  This time, I was much less fearful, and with each contraction I opened up instead of clenching or fighting the pain.  As every contraction came, I thought, “This is not pain, this is progress.”  I literally did not feel like I was in pain.  I kept a very open posture, with my legs spread open over the birthing ball, my arms open wide at my sides, my mouth open as I breathed, and my head raised.  I mediated on verses about not being afraid.  In between contractions I was still talking and smiling (I promise!).

My nurse and my midwife kept telling me how I was doing great and that I was getting close.  I truly didn’t believe them because I was not in pain and did not feel that “hopeless, out-of-control” feeling I felt with Vera as I got into hard labor.  I remember laboring on the birthing ball and bouncing/swaying to the music playing and just worshiping God in my heart as I contracted.

Tad placed heating pads on my lower back while I started to have much stronger contractions (around 2:15PM).  I started vocalizing at this point (oohhhhhh sounds).  I felt a little nauseous and began to get more focused.  I wasn’t smiling in between contractions anymore, but I still thought I had a few more hours to go.  My mom described me at this time as “in the zone.”

 

Around 2:35PM I felt like I wanted to move to the birthing chair.  My lower back hurt and I wanted the strong counter-pressure that the hard, curved back of the chair provided.  My midwife asked me if I felt like I needed to push, but I said not yet.  A few contractions later, I changed my answer to maybe.  I tried a push with my next contraction, but it still didn’t feel like “time.”  My midwife encouraged me to feel for the head, but I reached up there and didn’t feel anything.  With the next contraction, I pushed and literally felt her head move down the canal.  At this point, I knew I HAD to push, no matter what.  I knew she was coming fast, so that really motivated me to push.  I pushed hard, but because I was in the birthing chair, it wasn’t that painful.  I could feel the progress happening so quickly.  Even the “ring of fire” wasn’t too bad!  I had absolutely no tearing, which was a tremendous blessing.  I pushed her head out and gave one more strong push for her shoulders.  My midwife told me to look down (I had been pushing with my eyes closed) and there she was!  I picked her up (blood, vernix, and all!) and put her on my chest.  The first thing I said to her was, “Oh, I love you so much!”  I just hugged her and praised God for a beautiful, healthy baby!  She was born at 2:48PM.

 
 

We waited probably 45 minutes to clamp and cut the cord.  She was all mine 🙂 and no one else could hold her.  I am so glad we didn’t cut the cord until it had stopped pulsing.  My midwife didn’t rush me to birth the placenta, but when I was ready, I pushed that out without a problem.  It was all intact and she explained the parts of it to me (much to Tad’s disgust).  🙂

We announced Cordelia Mae’s name and called a few family members.  They wanted to know her stats, but Tad said “um… she’s still connected!”  After a while, they did clean her up and prepare to weigh her.  Everyone in the room took a guess at her weight (I said 8 lbs. even).  My mom, who hadn’t held her yet, said 8lbs. 3 oz., which was exactly right!  Cordelia was 20.5 inches long, which was Vera’s exact length too. She has dark hair also like her big sister.

 

I am still SO incredibly thankful to God for an amazing (truly worshipful) birthing experience!  I had the best support I could ever have asked for in Tad, my mom, my midwife, and my nurse.  I am serious when I say that this natural birth was virtually pain-free (thank you, Lord!).  I wouldn’t change anything about it at all.  Cordelia Mae is a precious blessing and we are so thankful to be her parents!  She is nursing great (my milk came in less than 48 hours after her birth) and we are thankful for that too.

We appreciate your prayers for this pregnancy and delivery… they were definitely answered!

Filed Under: baby, Cordelia, milestones, natural birth

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